And you were broken. This is the same old song, the love story gone wrong.
Nic July 9, at 7: Keep this in mind and eventually it will start to stick. I keep debating whether I should just end my life, because I cannot stand the pain any longer. Our son also prone to depression became dangerously depressed when we tried to split before, so we stopped moving forward with the divorce.
What can I do to cope with this while I wait it out for him to be strong enough? Nic July 6, at 1: They pervade our minds when we are at our worst.
The choice to end everything is what would kill you. When I have a serious struggle with my negativity, I try to step back and toss some logic into the mess. Do you believe that it is right to kill yourself? Thoughts of suicide are an escape mechanism. Do you want to be stronger?
Once you realise this, you will see. Also, do not expect your son to become strong enough. You must ride it out with him. Keep in mind that I am no psychologist or therapist. Staying married for the sake of the children seems hardly worthwhile. The two adults are miserable together and this is what the child sees while growing up.
I would think that separating might be painful, but your son would grow stronger because of it and learn that life is like that. Your son will learn this too. It just really, really hurts. But in a situation like this, you have to let go.
I hope this seems helpful and I am sorry that you are going through this. I am tired of being a slave to my fears. You just have to analyze your thought patterns and start ignoring the fearful, maladaptive thoughts: The ones that only lead to feeling trapped.
They do you no good. Try to think of thoughts that might be helpful, even if you feel helpless, alone, inadequate, unable, or unhappy with them. Try to think of thoughts that would be helpful to think.
And there are others like you who are going through similar things. It may not be as severe as yours and it may be more severe than yours, but you are not alone. Anunomus, you need to do much more than just cope!
Your son very much needs you to model how to be happy. But you must want happiness more than you want suffering. We often suffer in hopes that someone will save us, give us what we want or make life easier. Unfortunately this does not work.
If we choose to suffer what we have is suffering. I urge you to choose life, and choose to be fully alive and present, for your own sake and for the sake of your child. I would start by reading books about people who have thrived despite adversity, such as Nelson Mandelaand the Dalai Lama.“Pain is a pesky part of being human, I've learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here.
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